Ten Tips
- Admire who they are, as they are. Their experience will be different than that of other family members or anyone else. Don't get caught up in comparing them to others.
- Bravely let go. Trust them to take charge of their own life.
- Believe in them fully. Positive affirmations and loving support communicate to them that you believe they are capable of succeeding.
- Respect their choices. They may solve their problems in new and different ways. Their choices will be theirs to live with and learn from.
- Expect the unexpected. There will be challenges that you never anticipated. Flexibility and a positive attitude will help both of you navigate these situations.
- Be sensitive to their struggles. Ask about pressure or stress they may be feeling. Try to help them gain perspective while being supportive.
- Appreciate their independence. Listen and make suggestions rather than telling them what to do. This will help build their confidence in making adult decisions.
- Allow them their own privacy. Don't ask for every detail of their life. Let them choose what they want to share.
- Encourage them along the way. They will go through tough times. Your encouragement is far more important than your judgment or a quick fix.
- Normalize the idea of seeking help. Find resources available to your student on campus and in the community. Remind them that getting help is not a sign of weakness.